“I wonder How it's going to be, when you don't know me; How's it going to be…”

Friday, February 2, 2007

"When you're sure I'm not there
How's it going to be
When there is no one to talk to, between you and me
'Cause I don't care
How's it going to be"

I’m really tired today. I am tired of feeling disparaged. The thing that is the most frustrating is, I don’t know if I am being patronized or if it is all in my head. Swatz and I talk about this quite a bit; about how certain humors and tones irk us. I have been told by a few close friends that I tend to be overtly sensitive. Maybe...maybe not. I feel though the things that annoy me the most are a fairly basic list of impolite norm.
1) Humor that picks on peoples flaws, mistakes; victimizing someone for a joke is just not funny.
2) Talking down to a grown up as if they were children. Age has no barrier when it comes to giving a little respect during conversations.
3) Projecting work or personal frustration towards someone who should not be dealing with it. In fact no one should be dealing with it but you.
4) Tuning a person out who is trying to have a genuine conversation with you…that’s just disrespectful. Don’t waste your time and don’t waste theirs.
Who knows maybe the list above is not considered bad manners at all. And perhaps I do need to grow a thicker skin. After all that was one of my resolutions this year; to be more positive and not host ill feelings towards people who have their own way of expressing themselves…no matter how indecorous. I’ll say this much though…it is damn hard to be the bigger person.

On a more non-rant topic…Finally, it’s the weekend. Not just any weekend but the Super Bowl weekend. I will be running more errands and I have planned to cook up a storm. What does this mean for you? It means you will be reading foodie entries (including pics) the next few days. I am also looking forward to hang out with my young cousins during the game (I couldn’t care less who wins. Yes that’s right, I said it. Please send your comments to: I don’t care dotcom) and soak up some much needed Disney movie marathon. Super bowl to me is just about the food and the commercials. Yep I am indeed mentally 5 years old. Thanks!


Swati said...

uhm.. if i do or say something that isn't "haha" funny and someone who I consider close or even an aquaintence pokes fun at it and it hurts or irritates me.. that doesn't mean I need thick skin. It means that person needs to re-evaluate their humor and/or our relationship. Being able to make jokes without costing someone their feelings or dignity is a skill that unfortunately some people don't have and the worst.. when they don't even realize that they're doing. It is ACTUALLY who they are! EEK!

But you know what my theory on that is.. they're usually insecure people who are trying to fit into the given situation.. even if it's at the expense of someone else's feelings.

No thanks to those kinds of "friends". I'll stick to the one's who make me feel comfortable and loved :-)

AnuZi said...

I would agree with the whole they are insecure thing but the thing is some peopole are ok with humor like that when it comes to themselves! Like they dont care if you make fun of them. The best way I think of dealing with people like that (because its not so easy to cut people off..especially family!) is to talk to them and let them know that their humor is more hurtful then funny. Most people shy away from confrontation but I think its very healthy.

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